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Vivation and Attachment

 

If you just keep Viving, then you will like more and more things, including things that you once thought you could not possibly like. Before too long you will indeed like absolutely everything just the way it is, including death and war. To argue against reality is to lose the biggest argument of all. Fortunately, Vivation works at the feeling level, which means you do not need to use your mind to find things that are good about death and war. Theologically, if someone states, "The existence of war is proof that there is no God," he is really saying that he has such a high opinion of his own mind that if God disagrees with him, then God is wrong.  Every integration has an aspect of humility, because it means disclaiming superiority over the Creator of all things. We are alive now because of an unbroken chain of cause and effect that goes back to the beginning of time, including every war and every death that ever happened. Not very good self-management to make wrong our own life or anything that led up to it.

Integrating anything is always much easier than not integrating it. Perpetuating a make-wrong for decades of our life is extremely hard work! Relaxing and enjoying the present moment just as it is requires no effort whatsoever. So if motivation does not come from negativity, then where does it come from?

It comes from our values. Our values are the things that we delight in. The things that we value for their own sake. If we value money, then we have motivation to have more money. Making our lack of money wrong will not help. If we value love, then we have motivation to increase the love in our life. Making our past separations wrong will not help. We are both beings and doers. This is the same as saying we have both momentary time and linear time. Happiness and love are purely functions of momentary time. Freedom, creativity, and power are all functions of linear time, of doing rather than being. Some people have the mistaken idea that momentary time is somehow the opposite of linear time, that being in momentary time means not being in linear time, as though they were somehow mutually exclusive. That leads to thinking all kinds of funny, impractical things like sitting in a cave just Viving, or spending all your money and not saving any of it, or taking action on every impulse. Because Vivation takes place entirely in momentary time, and Vivation is what I talk about the most, I've occasionally had a student proclaim, "Jim Leonard says that linear time is not valid," which I like because it makes me smile. Making a plan for the future is a linear-time activity but we still have a present-moment experience of making the plan. Obviously we want to be both happy and powerful--it's no good just having one without the other.

There are two objectives of personal growth, happiness and power. We want to be happy in momentary time and powerful in linear time. What I mean by "powerful" is that we do a good job of making things better according to our own values. The word "better" obviously means completely different things to different people. We don't have exactly the same values as any other person. That's why some terrorists want to blow up Jews and Americans and Jews and Americans try to stop them.  Terrorists have different values than Jews and Americans. Also our own values change over time. My values now are very different from the values I had when I was sixteen.

When we bring our attention to the present moment, to see what exists in the present moment, part of what we find there is our values. Those values motivate all of our actions. Makewrong is not involved in that. In fact, integration always increases our motivation, because integration always makes our values clearer to us. Whenever we make something wrong, we withdraw our attention from the details of it, and just focus on the one aspect that falls short of our imaginary standard.  Whenever we hold anything in a positive context, we joyfully explore the details of it, which informs us about our values. For example, if we eat a meal that we like, we happily explore the details of it, and the education that comes from that exploration can help us to be better cooks, ourselves. If we eat something that we do not like, then either we stop eating it, or else we eat but block out the experience as much as we can, trying not to taste it. Every make-wrong is a withdrawal from reality. (Make-wrong means comparing something real to something imaginary.) Holding something in a negative context does nothing to educate us about our values. Holding something in a positive context always does educate us about our values, because we happily explore the details of what exactly we like about it. Another example: when we think about someone we like and admire (Benjamin Franklin comes to mind for me) then we are motivated to try and become more like that person.

My admiration for Ben Franklin inspires me to try to solve problems that have vexed everyone else, to work selflessly for the good of all, etc. We are educated about what "better" means to us, so the meaning of self-improvement becomes more specific. I do not take my make-wrongs about anybody seriously, so I'm going to choose an example that many people make wrong (and just as many other people admire)--Osama bin Laden. Perhaps you think that when we make someone wrong, it motivates us to be the positive opposite of them, but it doesn't work like that. People who make Osama bin Laden wrong do not find that thinking about him increases their motivation to be nice to people. People who make Osama bin Laden wrong get angry, typically, and become a little bit less nice to people. The millions of people who admire Osama bin Laden are motivated to be more like him in specific ways, like being dedicated to defeating the Great Satan and to spreading Islam (which they think of as the right way for everyone to live), being creative, being successful through good planning and good management, etc.

It works like that with everything. Every time we integrate something, which means that we focus on how good it is, we are further educated about our values and then those values motivate us positively. If someone makes rich people wrong, then obviously that person is never going to be rich, because he won't see which characteristics of rich people to emulate. If that person integrates his feelings about rich people, then he will admire them and be educated about how to be and what to do to become more like the rich people he admires. It is just the same with every integration. As people integrate more and more feelings, they become more and more enthusiastic, more and more motivated. Integration always increases motivation. Makewrong always reduces motivation. Those of us who work regularly with Vivation clients see this constantly. When people learn Vivation, they become far more productive.

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