Vivation and Attachment
If you just keep Viving, then you will like more and more
things, including things that you once thought you could not
possibly like. Before too long you will indeed like
absolutely everything just the way it is, including death
and war. To argue against reality is to lose the biggest
argument of all. Fortunately, Vivation works at the feeling
level, which means you do not need to use your mind to find
things that are good about death and war. Theologically, if
someone states, "The existence of war is proof that there is
no God," he is really saying that he has such a high opinion
of his own mind that if God disagrees with him, then God is
wrong. Every integration has an aspect of humility,
because it means disclaiming superiority over the Creator of
all things. We are alive now because of an unbroken chain of
cause and effect that goes back to the beginning of time,
including every war and
every death that ever happened. Not very good
self-management to make wrong our own life or anything that
led up to it.
is always much easier than not integrating it. Perpetuating
a make-wrong for decades of our life is extremely hard work!
Relaxing and enjoying the present moment just as it is
requires no effort whatsoever.
So if motivation does not come from negativity, then where
does it come from?
It comes from our values. Our values are
the things that we delight in. The things that we value for
their own sake. If we value money, then we have motivation
more money. Making our lack of money wrong will not help. If
we value love, then we have motivation to increase the love
in our life. Making our past separations wrong will not
help. We are both beings and doers. This is the same as
saying we have both momentary time and linear time.
Happiness and love are purely functions of momentary time.
Freedom, creativity, and power are all functions of linear
time, of doing rather than being. Some people have the
mistaken idea that momentary
time is somehow the opposite of linear time, that being in
momentary time means not being in linear time, as though
they were somehow mutually exclusive. That leads to thinking
all kinds of funny, impractical things like sitting in a
Viving, or spending all your money and not saving any of it,
or taking action on every impulse. Because Vivation takes
place entirely in momentary time, and Vivation is what I
talk about the most, I've occasionally had a student
proclaim, "Jim Leonard says that linear time is not valid,"
which I like because it makes me smile. Making a plan for
the future is a linear-time activity but we still have a
present-moment experience of making the plan. Obviously we
want to be both happy and powerful--it's no good just having
one without the other.
There are two
objectives of personal growth, happiness and power. We want
to be happy in momentary time and powerful in linear time.
What I mean by "powerful" is that we do a good job of making
things better according to our own values. The
word "better" obviously means completely different things to
different people. We don't have exactly the same values as
any other person. That's why some terrorists want to blow up
Jews and Americans and Jews and Americans try to stop them.
Terrorists have different values than Jews and Americans.
our own values change over time. My values now are very
different from the values I had when I was sixteen.
When we bring our attention to the present
moment, to see what exists in the present moment, part of
what we find there is our values. Those values motivate all
of our actions. Makewrong is not involved in that. In fact,
increases our motivation, because integration always makes
our values clearer to us. Whenever we make something wrong,
we withdraw our attention from the details of it, and just
focus on the one aspect that falls short of our imaginary
standard. Whenever we hold anything in a positive
context, we joyfully explore the details of it, which
informs us about our values. For example, if we eat a meal
that we like, we happily explore the details of it, and the
education that comes from that
exploration can help us to be better cooks, ourselves. If we
eat something that we do not like, then either we stop
eating it, or else we eat but block out the experience as
much as we can, trying not to taste it. Every make-wrong is
a withdrawal from reality. (Make-wrong means comparing
something real to something imaginary.) Holding something in
a negative context does nothing to educate us about our
values. Holding something in a positive context always does
educate us about our values, because we happily explore the
details of what
exactly we like about it. Another example: when we think
about someone we like and admire (Benjamin Franklin comes to
mind for me) then we are motivated to try and become more
like that person.
My admiration for
Ben Franklin inspires me to try to solve problems that have
vexed everyone else, to work selflessly for the good of all,
etc. We are educated about what "better" means to us, so the
meaning of self-improvement becomes more specific. I do not
take my make-wrongs about anybody seriously, so I'm going to
choose an example that many people make wrong (and just as
many other people admire)--Osama bin Laden. Perhaps you
think that when we make
someone wrong, it motivates us to be the positive opposite
of them, but it doesn't work like that. People who make
Osama bin Laden wrong do not find that thinking about him
increases their motivation to be nice to people. People who
make Osama bin Laden wrong get angry, typically, and become
a little bit less nice to people. The millions of people who
admire Osama bin Laden are motivated to be more like him in
specific ways, like being dedicated to defeating the Great
Satan and to spreading Islam (which they think of as the
right way for everyone to live),
being creative, being successful through good planning and
good management, etc.
It works like
that with everything. Every time we integrate something,
which means that we focus on how good it is, we are further
educated about our values and then those values motivate us
positively. If someone makes rich people wrong, then
obviously that person is never going to be rich, because he
won't see which characteristics of rich people to emulate.
If that person integrates his feelings about rich people,
then he will admire them and be educated about how to be and
what to do to become more like the rich people he admires.
It is just the same with every integration. As people
integrate more and more feelings, they become more and more
enthusiastic, more and more motivated. Integration always
increases motivation. Makewrong always reduces motivation.
Those of us who work regularly with Vivation clients see
this constantly. When people learn Vivation, they become far
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The Importance of
Loving Yourself iiiiThin™
Attachment, by iiiiJim
Leonard, the founder of iiiiVivation
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